It’s funny how people have so much to say.
Recently I’ve been told that I’m not “mature enough” to be in a relationship (by a guy who was too flakey to be in a relationship with me and therefore his comments were in response to me telling him to sod off because I was tired of waiting on him).
A friend said to me that I’m looking for my identity in men instead of within the God who created me. She thinks that I’m not ready for any type of relationship.
How do people outside of yourself know what’s right for you? And how is it that we allow ourselves to be penetrated by these words, until they completely consume you?
It got me to thinking about mental health? Is it right to assume that anybody with mental health issues shouldn’t be allowed to be in a relationship?
Can we not be trusted to make judgements on a partner when our judgements are so impaired?
But then I put this question to you (which is the same question I posed to the friend): how is one supposed to learn about healthy relationships when they stay away from all? And this doesn’t just go for love, sex and marriage; I’m talking about friendships, work and family relationships too. How do you learn to have friends when you don’t have any at all? How would you know what it’s like to be in a family if you’ve never had one?
And then I put this question to you: does mental illness deem somebody undeserving of any type of relationship at all, just because they are messed up?