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Sticks and Stones

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.

Do we still believe in that?
Last week I had a heated verbal altercation with one of my housemates regarding noise at night. Finally tired to the loud noises of fornication (LOL) and the other housemate bringing pals back for a party until well after three in the morning, I tried to convince my housemate to come to a compromise on a “noise curfew”.
My housemate point blank said no.

He said:
“You’re not the only person living here

“Not everything is about you”

“The world doesn’t revolve around you”

The last person to say that about me was my mother.

When more than one person says the same thing to you, your brain latches onto that repetition; are they right? Am I really so self involved?

All I wanted was a noise curfew because I’m working seven days a week. I’m working and training to be a teacher, plus finishing the last modules of part one of my master’s degree. On top of that I’m still battling with uncontrolled seizures as well as possible bipolar.

I am planning to move, therefore the compromise was to keep noise to a minimum after 11pm until I move out in the next month or so.

My housemate told me to fuck off, while the other one who partied until after 3pm hasn’t even spoken to me since, let alone offered an apology. So even absent words can be just as harmful as those thrown into your face.

Sticks and stones don’t break my bones but words have broken my mind.


I’m Cece Alexandra and I have Epilepsy. Since being diagnosed, my life has changed significantly. After studying and teaching Humanities and Literature for all of my adult life, I was bullied and lost my job a month before qualifying to become an English Teacher. Once you fail the Teacher Training course in England, you cannot ever retrain; I then became too sick to work because of my Epilepsy. I am now currently studying an MSc in Mental Health Psychology with the University of Liverpool. My disability provokes me into raising awareness for invisible disabilities, which I also actively partake in with Epilepsy Action. Part of that awareness is to help fight against invisible disability discrimination - I believe that this behaviour is not cognitively unconscious; modern society is actively partaking in a hierarchy of disabilities and I believe that there is not enough psychological research to prove this. I am also clinically interested in Cultural Psychology - particularly Collectivist Culture, and wish to pursue this further in my academic career.

2 thoughts on “Sticks and Stones

  1. People can be so unbelievably selfish, and you are not the one being selfish here. Rude, obnoxious people! I would expect a little more understanding from your mother. No, you are not the center of the universe, but a little consideration is not too much to ask. You need to find your own space.

    1. Thank you so much Heather. It’s funny how looking after yourself has become the new definition for selfish. It’s also funny that when you’re so busy looking after other people you’re everybody’s best friend and as soon as you need to take time for yourself you’re the biggest Judas since Judas himself! Haha people are strange….

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