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Epileptic On Tour: Greetings from Budapest

Last week I had another mental breakdown. After a crisis of faith in God as well as within myself, I finally realised that I NEED to do things to take back control of my life. 
Am I having a mid life crisis???
I’ve been in a relationship with a man whose love I was always doubting. I lived in constant paranoia. I blame myself for this implicitly because I should never have allowed the situation to carry on for so long.
I allowed people in my job, church and family to define me and limit my life expectations. I lived in fear, afraid of everything around the corner. 
I’ve broken up with my boyfriend now and am throwing myself back into single life. Unfortunately this included a brief fling with a manic depressive romantic philosopher (I wish I was frickin joking… our love affair had to end when we both realised that we wanted to kill ourselves).
I’m posting this piece from a Mexican restaurant in Budapest, following an abrupt decision to stop moaning about wanting to go and actually doing something about it. 
I’m finally going to get that second tattoo and have been looking at designs. 
I’m passionately writing when I can.  
Perhaps this is all just a symptom of the mania. 
However, I’ve realised that I’ve never really been on my own. With my own life. Before Dan my life was about my family. Then there was Dan. Now it’s just me (and epilepsy). 

I’ve also realised that I don’t really know much about myself – what I love and what I don’t love, likes and dislikes. I’ve realised that being in my own company with the voices in my head (I was diagnosed with manic depression last week so I’m not even kidding!) isn’t necessarily a bad thing! With the use of mindfulness, I’m able to just sit and at least try to figure stuff out. 
I’ve discovered that I love cycling (even though it does hurt my nonny when I cycle for too long!) and love going for long bike rides on my own, even if I manage to get myself lost.
I’ve missed travelling and although being in a different country leaves me partly petrified, I’m also ecstatic that I’m doing this. Budapest – a city full of profound history – is somewhere I’ve always wanted to go to and now at the age of 30 I’m finally getting to do it. 

And yesterday I was looking at flights to Kraków during half term. 

I no longer have anybody to feel homesick for so there’s nothing stopping me from jetting off when I can afford it. 

And to those who told me that I shouldn’t because of my epilepsy: I have a plastic bag full of medication and I think I know better than most how to look after myself.
I LOVE READING! I feel like a teenager again, where most of my free time is consumed with music and reading. It keeps me sane and reminds me to think. 
I hope that this feeling lasts. 
I write this not just as a self-celebratory piece but also to encourage. If you’re unhappy with your life you can do WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CHANGE IT. 

Author:

My body remains on the sidelines watching, while my mind roams around the room, taking in the world around her. I am a wallflower. There could be two reasons for this: It could be due to me being an introvert or just that I am a Cancerian! I’m Cece Alexandra and I am so honoured that you’ve been led to delve into my thoughts here in this blog! I would describe myself as a Wallflower which is why I use words to express my deepest – and sometimes darkest - thoughts. Words have always been my strongest method of expressing myself. Growing up I always wanted to be a writer, however life and circumstances chipped away at my confidence until there was nothing left. Without words, I could no longer express myself. I am also Epileptic. Since being diagnosed, I have realised that my deepest fear is the day I am finally on my deathbed, haunted by the overwhelming regret that I never achieved my God-given potential. This realisation forced me to take a step of faith and put myself out there. Yes it makes me vulnerable, however within the process I not only want to be an inspiration to myself; I want to be an inspiration to other women – to be whatever you want to be. Embrace the fear and doubt and utilise that as the fuel you need to push through! Life is for living to the fullest. Life is for loving, for living true to yourself and to the people around you. Life however, can also be crippling, dark and overwhelming. But you are not alone. This thought alone is what will help you get up from the ground.

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